When I think of all the relationships that did not work (I wanted so much at the time), I realize that in all cases, there were warning signs that every guy gave me this could give me an idea of the grief that I was going to leave if I had been aware of what to look for. To save you from what happened to me, to give you the scoop on what you can be on the lookout for, here is my list of warning signs that clearly you know it’s a guy to avoid if there is a real relationship you look.
1. He does not call you when he says he will:
Certainly, I know that sometimes life can get the path, and if it works later on this major project with the deadline looming, it is possible that time could escape occasionally. But if this happens more than once or twice, it is a sure sign that you’re just not a priority for him right now. If a guy is really interested to start (or continue) a real relationship with you, you will be on his mind, and he will not forget to call.
2. It is often late and does not call to let you know:
I know there are many reasons that people can run end that are beyond their control (traffic jam, car problems, being stuck in office), but a quick call from his cell phone will put your mind at ease, and you know you have a few minutes to try on other equipment you were still considering. The point here is to be respectful of your time, we can forgive late even chronic late (some people are not good at judging how long it will take something), but do not call to let you know that he will be a little late? This is inexcusable and a sign that he is not too concerned about you.
3. It does not show at all (and do not call) when you plan to see:
Ladies OK unless it was (verifiable) unconscious in a hospital somewhere, a rose is “one shot and you’re out” offense. There is absolutely no good reason for this (except the above), and if you stay with him after a move like that, you’ll be in a very bumpy emotional ride that is almost guaranteed to end badly. Reception cell phones these days is excellent (unless it is a logger working in the great North Woods), so it is unforgivable.
4. There are rules on how often he cannot see you:
It is one thing to have “boys” Friday Night Poker “, or something along those lines, but if it is only willing to together say, every other weekend (except being a situation of child care), then that is a sure sign that he is keeping his options open and still scouring the market for something better (at least in his mind – he just does not realize that you are the best thing going!).
5. He knows way more about you than you know about it:
If you are doing all the talking during conversations, and when you ask him something about himself, he does not talk much, it may be because he’s hiding something or do not want to get too close to you. Many guys are just not big talkers, but if he does not tell you the details of where he works, where he grew up, went to school, etc., and if it gives you vague answers when you ask him to these characteristics, then it means that keep you away.
6. You know much more about him than he knows about you:
This is the reverse of the medal the last warning sign – if it is so busy talking all about himself,and shows no interest in who you are, what you like to do, or what your idea of the future looks like, it should be a red flag. The good news about this is that there is no danger of taking personally – it’s all around him. It has nothing to do with you – what kind of guy is not interested in everyone – but himself. Avoid (clearly).
7. He did not tell anyone about you:
If it does not show you his friends, or ask you to go out with them from time to time, go to a party or meet with them – which is a sure sign that he is not sure the whole thing. Of course, you may not want to go out with friends a lot, especially if they are a group of singles to party, but they should at least know about you, and it should be your decision.
How they treat you when you are around can also be a great telltale sign of how things are going or will go – if they treat you just like “yeah, you’re the girlfriend of the month, I’ll talk to you if you can do it the week last 4 “, while this a sign of what may be coming next.
8. It does not prompt you to meet his family:
Calling on course to meet with the family is a big deal, as it should, and it does not occur until it feels like this thing going somewhere. So simply – if the weather starts to drag, and he still has not asked to meet her family, it is likely that he had doubts about the relationship. There is no chance he embarrassed by his family.
I have a good friend whose husband’s family (which consists of his elderly mother and aunt, who raised him and all still live together) is essentially, well, slightly disturbed.They look like stereotypes “bag ladies” and even shown to my friends wedding wearing several layers of ragged clothes and carrying